Competent communication deals with “the success of communication by considering the methods by which an outcome is accomplished. “What” is said and “How” it is said take on greater significance” (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2009, p.14). My friend Antoine Dixon is a very competent communicator that I know. He has this saying ” You have to deal with people according to knowledge”. This saying basically means that you must learn to deal with people based upon their individual differences. He is very good with dealing with people. “What” and “how” he says things plays a big role in why he is one of the few people I can confide in and never feel judged. When we talk he listens and he is not offensive when he speaks or when he gives advice. Even when we discuss the things “I don’t want to hear”, he says it in a way where it is received as constructive criticism and not judgment. I would definitely like to model some of my own communication behaviors after his. I think it is important to respect the differences of each individual.I hope to be good at treating people(family, children and in general) the way they need to be treated.
Reference
O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s
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Hi Alycia,
I agree with you that it is essential that people understand, tolerate and accept the differences of each individual. It is great that you have a friend who you can confide in . Also, the fact that he can address and communicate with you all kinds of information constructively is extremely effective. Thank you for sharing your post.